Infidelity

“Forgiveness after infidelity isn’t instant. It’s a process of rebuilding, which demands empathy, courage, and the willingness to stay open to each other despite the hurt”

- Harriet Lerner

(clinical psychologist)

Infidelity

When a partner cheats, it has the ability to disrupt the entire relationship, family structure, and so much more. The way you once “knew” things to be, well, you may be wondering if that was ever really the truth. You may be concerned that you’ll never trust again, never move through this, and that you either have to live miserably in a relationship to maintain a family structure, or that your relationship must end.

In some cases, couples choose to severe the marriage or long term relationship because they either don’t want to do the work, or they have concern that they will never get through it. Some are in a state of shock when they come see me - unable to make a decision - feeling lost in translation, bewildered, guilt-ridden, or broken.

Infidelity does not need to define you - but it also could very well define you in a new, fresh way. It could be an awakening - or a re-awakening of your relationship, and completely transform the partnership you previously had into something new.

I work with couples all over the United States to discover what’s next, once we sort through what once was.

@thea.onrelationships Many people think you cannot heal feom infidelity. When the reality is, according to research, most people who have experienced infidelity stay in relationship with one another. Cheating/infidelity is so nuanced that there isnt one reason why people have affairs. There are some concrete steps, though, that you can take as a couple to heal and move forward. For many, infidelity opens an opportunity to experience the best relationship with your partner you ever have. #infidelity #cheater #cheating #relationshipcoach #marriagecoach ♬ original sound - Marriage & Relationship Coach

How Will We Get Through This?

  • Accountablility

    Healing from infidelity/cheating requires accountability. Relationship success after infidelity will depend on responsibility taking and willingness to find understanding in the face of difficulty.

  • Honesty

    The partner who has gone astray must be willing to commit to honesty and forthcomingness, whilst honoring their partner.

  • Commitment and Understanding

    Evermore important is the willingness of the couple to discover the 'why' behind the infidelity, and to find space to understand one another, either again, or for what feels like the first time.