I hear the words boring, or infrequent, or unengaged, when it comes to sexuality.

I prefer to look at sex in relationship as this uncharted territory that has a wealth of discovery available to those who go looking.

When we first enter into relationship with our partner, sex can be exciting, juicy and curious. As we move forward with our partners, our relationship may become more solid, while our sex life can fall off the cliff. It can become infrequent and routine, and many couples and individuals come to see me once they have “waited it out” to see if the sex life they once had would naturally pick back up.

I find that there are a different set of ideas I tend to bring to the table around sex, along with some practical tools and practices, to help my clients find a way that works for both of them (not just for one person in the couple).

I also often find that other deficits in the relationship drive (or don’t) the desire to have the level of connection each partner is looking for, and we must work on those, too.

Everyone’s sex life is going to be different based on what you are looking for, what you are interested in, and the way in which you want to be loved and desired. It is important to me to honor both individuals within the couple, and most of all, go on a journey to discover who you are, so we can figure out what you truly want, and then get creative so we can get you there.